The Perceptual Process

We all can be fooled by appearance. Some people really do judge a book by it's cover (metaphorically speaking of course). I for one am not one to judge. I believe we all have a lot on our plate and some of us may show it and some of us may not. But for those that do show it, automatically in our heads we are quick to judge. We assume what their story is, even though we have never talked to them. We go off of stereotypes and what we know.

And as I hate to admit it but I have done this and I believe we all have once in our life. It was when I was moving into a new apartment because me and my roommate just couldn't find the right fit. My roommate, that I shared the same room with, her name was Darian and we have been life long friends for a while now. We lived at this apartment complex on campus that fits six girls. Two to a room. So when we first moved in in August, we were living with the goalkeeper on my team, and two tennis girls. Long story short, Darian and I didn't get along with the tennis girls and one night in December, we got into an altercation with them and cops were called and all that jazz. So we moved apartments after that. The apartment we moved into was just us two and another older women. She had her own room and when we first walked in, the apartment was a total mess. We talked to her for a little bit, but that little bit was all we needed to figure out that we didn't want to live there anymore. Turned out she was on parol and been arrested numerous times. Well Christmas break was around the corner and we both went back home for that break. When we came back, all the food we had left for us was gone and the apartment looked like a earthquake had hit it. So we went to the office demanding for a different room. They granted our wish and we were put into an apartment with two other girls. Which brings me to theory of implicit personality. One of my new roommates, wore baggy clothes and I had noticed that she would wear the same clothes often than usual. Her room smelled bad, she never did her hair, she would go as long as three days to take a shower. The music she listened to, I was not a fan of. But she actually turned out to be the most selfless, nice, sweet, kind hearted person you will EVER meet. I was totally wrong about her. Even her tone of voice was a kind of voice that you just could never get mad at. I wish I had the heart she has. You could disappoint her but she will always still be there for you. You could walk all over her and still treat you with respect. Now I didn't do this to her but I noticed it as we became friends. When I went back home for the summer, we wrote letters to each other. We didn't live with each other this past year but we would go out to eat and catch up. She always puts a smile on my face and there's always good vibes when I'm with her. After meeting her, I've never thought once about being quick to assume someones background. Because you'll never know till you actually get to know them.